5 Things a man wants in a Godly woman

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5 things a Godly man wants in a woman (see above entry for full outline).

Security: I agree with this one. I'm sure there are some who like to be the one to come in and convince a girl the truth about some sort of insecurity (knight in shining armor complex), and I think they can be attracted to feeling needed, and I say they, though I have caught myself having those thoughts. But I think ultimately, that stuff wears off, and a Godly man truly wants a woman who is secure in who God made her to be.

Support: Agreed.

Acceptance: YES!!! There have been several times when I've been liked by a girl, but I wasn't exactly who they wanted me to be, so they try to change those parts of me into what they wanted. And we're not even talking about inside a relationship. I'm all about having a woman that makes me want to be a better man...but...I don't like feeling like I'm being changed manipulatively (or even just straight out).

Appreciation: Seems to go a lot with support. Don't totally see how they differ.

Respect: Ummm...yeah...I agree. I don't mind the sarcasm as much because I know that I'm going to be dishing it out. But I guess just knowing that there is that underlying respect is good. I think this fuels Support and Appreciation. Well...and Acceptance. But...yeah...I would agree with this one.

I mean...obviously I agree with them because they are things that it would be silly not to want in a woman. I can't think of any other traits that I would have put instead of some of these...although, I would have combined a couple, so...I guess there is a space open. So...maybe perspective? Or...I guess it would go under security. But...just that God would be the most important thing to her...even above us. Again, there is something selfish and desirous about wanting to be the most important thing in someone's life. I mean...hey...that'll make you feel good. But again, ultimately...I know we desire to be placed correctly in the line of succession (if that's the right word). And of course if we are looking for a Godly wife...she must love God!

Now one note on most of this...I don't think Hopper was trying to say that everything we do should be worshipped and followed unequivocally. He of course mentioned that we should earn the right to lead. But...I'm a fallen man. I don't have it all together. I don't always make good decisions. And there are some wise women out there. And while I don't want to fight her on stuff, or feel doubted or undermined. I'm all about some input. I think good leadership is all about using what resources you have, and...well...if she's smarter than me...I'm all about using that. I guess when the decision is made, that this stuff would be applied is good. But I don't think it means that we always want to be the ones to come up with the solutions and don't want input and want to lead by running ahead 20 yards hoping you keep up. Nor do I think Hopper was saying that. Just...thought I'd clarify it.